Is It Still a Mid-Life Crisis If You’re Both Going Through It?

So we’ve bought the trailer, done the maiden voyage and everything is working out well. Now what?

What better time to have a shared mid-life crisis. We’re both of a certain age, and by that I mean the kids have grown and flown, leaving us to a house that’s now too large, Mcjobs we don’t particularly care for, and a boredom with our surroundings. What do we do?

chuck-56609_1280Well, if you’re Michael, you come up with the idea that we’re going to sell the house and live off the money for a few years, while traveling with the trailer and Buddy in tow. You plan on the six winter months south of the border where it’s warm (and you can ride year round), and returning to Canada for the rest of the year, where you could continue to explore, or pick up seasonal work to supplement income, or whatever.

I have to admit, it took me some time to come around to this idea. I thought he had lost his mind.

I mean, we’ve got twenty years invested into this house…
…which is really too big for just two of us…
…and even though it’s five bedrooms, we basically live in three rooms…
…and we’ve done so many renovations in the last few years…
…and it’s so close to being paid off…
…and it should bring a good price…
hmm.

But then there’s the financial security of having a weekly paycheck…
…except I can’t get full time hours…
…and the crazy shifts are really annoying…
…and sometimes the customers are beyond rude…
…and regardless of how hard you work, it’s never enough for corporate…
…and I could still freelance my graphic design and writing from the road…
hmmm.

direction-1033278_1280But this is home and we know everyone…
…except we hardly ever see our old friends anymore…
…and most of my family has passed on or moved away…
…and the kids have lives of their own now…
…and we’ve already met so many interesting people in our travels…
hmmmm.

But what would we do with all our stuff…
…except we’ve already downsized quite a bit while we were renovating…
…and the kids could use quite a bit of what we’d be leaving behind…
…we could sell off some things…
…and what little bit was left we could store…
hmmmmm.

But aren’t we supposed to wait until we retire to do something like this…
…except if we wait too long, we won’t be able to enjoy it like we could right now…
…and I keep hearing stories of people retiring and something terrible happening within months…
…or simply not being able to afford to retire at all…
…and we’re both healthy right now…
hmmmmmm.

It seems I’m running out of arguments.

On a recent road trip, we had one of those long, in-depth conversations that goes on for hours. I have to admit, Michael would have made a good lawyer. For every concern or argument I offered, he seemed to have a solution or a reason why it would work anyway. Apparently, he had given this quite a bit of thought before springing it on me.

Then he drew his ace in the hole. The Bucket List. For as long as we’ve been together, we’ve had this imaginary list between us of all the places we’d like to see and all the things we’d like to do, when we are finally able to do them. We usually pull it out when we get in a dreamy mood. He started off with the Grand Canyon. Dirty pool. grand-canyon-1083745_1280

So he began listing off other sites: Mount Rushmore, Monument Valley, Las Vegas, the Oregon Coast, New Orleans, and on and on. Every spot he mentioned he knows has been on my list for years. He shamelessly did his best to charm and persuade me for over an hour. Then he plays his trump card. “Wouldn’t you like to spend Christmas in Texas with your brother?” Of all the underhanded tricks, I can’t believe he’s stooping so low.

Eff it. “I’m in.”

14410-NPP61YSo, that’s our plan as it stands right now. We realize that this isn’t going to happen overnight. Right now, everything hinges on selling the house. It could take years yet. But at least we have a plan. You’ve got to start somewhere, right?

In the past few years, we’ve done the house over top to bottom. All new windows and doors, new siding, new chimney, new flooring throughout, kitchen updated, upstairs bathroom completely redone with ceramic. All that’s left is ceramic tile in the downstairs bathroom. After that’s completed, hopefully in the next month or so, we’re going to list the house.

Once it sells (as long as that takes), then we’ll pack up and move on. According to US government sites, we are allowed to spend 181 total days per year in the US. We will try to get the most out of the winter months in the south, and come northward again once winter moves out.

We still need to find a decent half ton truck to pull the trailer. Our old one is fine for shorter trips, but it’s just not in good enough shape to make the long haul we’re planning. If it were a horse, it would have been put to pasture by now, and only ridden around the paddock once a week or so.

In the meantime, I’m working on building my clientele for my freelancing. I’m mentally packing, making lists in my head of what is going where, what I can live without and what I can’t. Mike is researching boondocking, rubber tramping, RV living, tiny house storage solutions, and anything else he can think of. I’ve seen so many You Tube episodes of Gone With the Wynns and The Nomadic Fanatic, I’m seeing double. We’re researching RV Discount clubs like Passport America and Thousand Trails. I’m up to my fanny in notes and plans and maps.

And I’m loving every minute of it.

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3 thoughts on “Is It Still a Mid-Life Crisis If You’re Both Going Through It?

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  1. If you have the travel bug, it really IS a no-brainer when you come down to it, isn’t it? Full-time traveling has its own set of issues, but it sounds like you are well prepared to tackle them.

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